“Childhood should be carefree, playing in the sun; not living a nightmare in the darkness of the soul.”

― Dave Pelzer, A Child Called "It"

….Please close your eyes for a few minutes and imagine yourself in a dark room, no light, no sound, no other person, no communication. You start feeling suffocated, helpless, trapped, freezed and ISOLATED. You live in fear as if you are going to be in the same room forever….

That is what child abuse feels like..

A sexually abused child carries such a secret for years. It is often ignored and unreported but its effect is long-lasting and corrosive deeply impacting the emotional and psychological makeup of the child, family, and finally the society.

If not handled well in time the child sexual abuse could even result into depression, addiction, relationship difficulties, isolation and suicide in the growing up years.

A child abuse survivor tells her story..

I was 8 years old studying in class 3. Though I had a normal childhood but certain things which went on in my life I could not understand, it was when I used to feel an inappropriate touch by my close uncle. I disclosed this to my mom when I was 15 but nothing happened. This experience made me go into a dark space of isolation from which I could not come out for 14 long years. . 

Thankfully I learned at an early age that none of this was my fault.  Yes, I had some very hard times but it could have been so much worse if I would not have realised this and stood up for myself as I grew up. But this impacted my emotional side leading to lack of trust with adults, even my teachers.  I felt isolated and cut off from the outside world for a long time.

I see a lot of children who are unable to talk about their abuse and my heart break for them. They are so lost and sad. I am thankful that I did not allow the abuse of my uncle control my life. I did not allow him win over my life.

With my experience I would say that anyone who survives such crimes and stand tall should be proud of themselves and appreciate their strength. Look at what you have gone through, and is there really anything in life that could destroy who you are. You can thrive in your world and believe that there could be happiness even after abuse – I am the living proof. May all survivors find courage to speak out their pain and tell their story so that others could follow their foot steps. 

It is so simple to make it STOP and say NO NO NO and to speak out loud about child sexual abuse.

Are you are able to relate to this story? Can you think that this story could be of your own child who is unable to speak to you.?

So can we do a small thing without any shame, without any fear, and open the door of that dark room of isolation and make a commitment that such a thing will not happen with our children. Raise voice for yourself and raise voice for other children so that they don’t pass through the same journey of shame and guilt.

There are many who are still the prisoner of their childhood. They make attempt to build a new life but keep re-encountering the mental and emotional trauma of their passed years.

A child is fragile to be nurtured and not left to be a recluse. Knowing the dangers of abuse taking appropriate actions at the right time is the key to keep children safe.

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